“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”   — Maya Angelou

I think the highest compliment you can pay another person is to emulate their energy, outlook, and the way they respond to the hard stuff life sends their way.


When faced with a trying moment with the kids or dealing with someone “less perfect than me,” I often ask myself, “What would Mom do?”

One thing’s for sure, whatever she’d do would leave us both laughing, because that’s what my Mom does—smiles, sees the bright side, and makes everything fun.

She’s universally beloved for her optimism, her crazy sense of humor, her puns, and her naughty jokes. Where she goes, joy and laughter follow. She makes life look easy.

As a little girl, I remember everyone adoring my mother. The room would light up when she walked in (and it still does). She was christened Lorey, but I’ve come to believe that her name is actually “I LOVE” Lorey, because that phrase always follows mention of her name.

My favorite childhood stories involve Mom making us laugh. These tales have been so often retold that we’ve come up with our own family shorthand for them, like “Smashing Ho-Ho’s,” “Oranges in The Bra,” and “Nasty Doodles on the Tablecloth.” These rank in the top ten, but there’re hundreds more.Lorey Balloons

She loves silly practical jokes. She’s been known to swipe the glass of milk you just poured, or go cross-eyed when you’re talking about something serious.

And we’ve learned to listen closely when Mom’s speaking, because if we don’t, we’re liable to see her facing the wall, talking happily on as if she still has the floor.

She used to tell me if I felt sad or blue I should “think a smile” to improve my outlook (try it – it works!), and if I felt nervous entering a roomful of people, to hold my head high and remember that I’m a talented, wonderful woman who can accomplish anything I put my mind to. She taught me that there will always be difficulties, but that if I don’t give up, I’ll prevail.


(‘Course she also said dumb stuff like, “Quit slouching! You’ll ruin your posture!”)

As a child, I remember wondering if people would like me as much when I was a grown-up. I so wanted to be like her, and have tried hard to follow in her footsteps.

I consider myself to be a happy person, one who “walks softly and carries a big smile.” With the kind of coaching I’ve had, who wouldn’t be?

At age 54, I still hear Mom’s voice in my head, guiding me as I make my way. I know my children have been watching me live life for a long time, and that my attitude and choices influence how they perceive the world. I hope when they hear my voice, they’ll be equally inspired.

I’m blessed to have Mom as my lifelong role model. We don’t get to choose our mothers, but if we could, I would have chosen her.

So, thanks to my Mom, I keep my shoulders back, stay positive and “think a smile,” stuff oranges in my bra when the kids need a laugh, and when the mood strikes – smash the occasional foil-wrapped dessert.




10 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Pherbia Stephens on March 23, 2011 at 6:09 pm

    I just printed this off so I can show it to Gordon and Peggy.
    They are on their way up with supper. I will get back with you as soon as we have finished. Thank you so much.


  2. Posted by Honey on March 24, 2011 at 12:11 am

    Soo Beautifully written Honey. So much so that all I can write right now is I love you so so much Mom…with tears welling in my heart. Thank you, Honey. ❤


  3. Posted by lifewith4cats on March 24, 2011 at 7:01 pm

    Your mom sounds so nice. My own parents are so incredibly disfunctional its a wonder I even funtion as I do. But then I always searched for and picked good role models. (and loving animals too)and adopted the parents of my friends 🙂

    I just love that balloon hat.


    • Thank you again! The balloon hat picture was taken on her 80th birthday last year. She’s a blast. I’m really sorry to hear about your dysfunctional parents, that is SO hard. Our parents teach us both through example and their words to us whether or not life is good or not so good. I’m glad you have such a nice husband who encourages you with your blog and reads your posts. Doesn’t that just make all the difference? My husband also has a WordPress blog, and has written a book recently (so he’s a REAL writer) 🙂 and he helps me edit all of my articles. Say hi to the kitty brood from another Cat Lover.


  4. Your mom sounds wonderful. What a lucky girl you are, and your whole family, too. Thanks for finding my blog and commenting on it. I am glad to know about yours. I will be stopping by again!


  5. Posted by Linda O'Connor on April 11, 2011 at 3:27 pm

    This link found its way to my Facebook page through our younger siblings. Turns out our mothers have the very same birthdate. And similar sense of humor. I remember you making me laugh on occasion way back when we were teenagers. Happy birthday to your mom.


    • Wow, hi Linda! What a great surprise! Amazing our moms have the same birthday. I’m glad you have fond memories from way back when…me too. Had a great childhood (thanks to my mom in a big way as you know 🙂 Hope you are well and happy. Where are you living now?


  6. Kim! What a beautiful tribute to your mom. After meeting you in the radio station with Brian and reading what you’ve written about your mom, I can see why I liked you so much instantly. You are like your mom; funny, warm, optimistic, and bubbling over with life. Your mom raised great kids! And it’s such a blessing that she knows how much you love and appreciate her. 🙂


    • Oh, thank you Rebecca! You couldn’t have said anything nicer. She is a wonderful mom – my husband and I just left her place in Cupertino after a great visit. It was wonderful to meet you, too, and I’m so glad my brother has such high-quality, kind people around him! We hope to visit Utah again soon, and will definitely set up lunch or coffee together! ❤


  7. Posted by Me on May 6, 2013 at 3:09 pm

    KimiRose—Just a joy to read your thoughts about your Mom. I remember your Mom and your Dad as VERY nice people. I see your Dad’s smile in my mind’s eye while he/we were enjoying witnessing your Mom’s positively outrageous sense of humor. Love to you—and big hugs to your Mom and your Dad.


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